Somebody Knows … and Cares

By Bethany Kim

We’ve all heard that old saying: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” But I don’t believe it. Words really do hold a lot of power.

Just by looking at me, you’d never have known how tormented I felt inside because of bullying.

holding-hands-752878_960_720I was a high school freshman transferring in from a different school and, at first, things seemed like they were off to a great start. I made the volleyball team and developed new friendships. My peers respected me because I also did well academically. Yea, so maybe I was nerdish.

None of those things, however, gave me any protection from verbal harassment.

One of my closest friends loved hanging around a girl named Alice. In class, we would all sit together and Alice would insult me and belittle my intelligence. My heart felt like it was being torn to shreds as Alice verbally abused me.

I hated every minute of it, but endured it silently because my friend thought Alice was hilarious.

I bottled up my feelings and tried to shrug off the hurt I felt. I thought that to be a good Christian meant that I needed to forget about Alice’s nasty lies and pretend she had never said them.

Her words hurt more deeply than I could have imagined, but I stuffed them in a box and went on with my life. After my freshman year, I stopped spending time with those friends, and life became more pleasant.

A few years later, an evangelist came to our church. At the end of his message, he invited people to come forward for prayer.

And God spoke to my heart that day and reminded me about the bullying that I had tucked away in the deep recesses of my heart. I began to cry as the evangelist and my church family prayed for me.

I had no idea the pain from bullying ran so deep in my soul, but God could see it. He saw it happen and knew about the scars I had long forgotten. Not only did God see it, but He wanted to heal and restore my broken heart. That’s the amazing part about it – that God’s heart actually aches when He sees us experience suffering and pain.

He understands pain because He has encountered it. Isaiah 53:3 says, “He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their face he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.” Jesus also experienced intense suffering when He died for us on the cross that we might have life through His Name.

For me, the healing began with talking to God. You can tell the Lord about what is going on in your life. He sees it and He cares. “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).

It is not God’s design for His children to live in fear or bury their feelings as I did. If you have experienced hurt from bullying, I fully believe that God wants to heal your heart and give you new joy and freedom. Read more at Who Am I? Finding Eternal Identity and Whose Voices Are You Listening To?

Bethany Kim is a guest contributor for Day of Dialogue.

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